Yes we need more chaste twee baby gay romances like heartstopper and yes we also need more shows where men fuck raw to express their love for one another like Élite and yes we need more toxic gays having hate sex like Interview with the Vampire and yes we need more incidental gay characters like the dads in cartoons like Owl House.
It’s not a competition! It’s a hoard and I’m like a gay little Smaug.
the normalization of porn in mainstream media is a weird take to have
Normalization of gay desire and yes, even gay sex, is paramount to gay liberation actually.
Reblog and put in the tags a band/artist that after listening to the rest of their discography you realize that their most popular song isn’t really all that
Psychology textbook diagrams never cease to amaze me
ok y'all this isnāt a psych textbook gaslighting you into thinking itās normal and ok for your boss to yell at you, itās specifically about understanding that other peopleās treatment of you is usually more about them than you.
If your boss is pissy with you, itās absolutely more healthy to understand that behavior as a reflection of his mental state rather than of your worth as an employee.
Itās not a psych textbookās job to advise you how to improve your workplace or say what is/isnāt acceptable treatment by a boss. Itās an example of detaching your own self-worth from how other people treat you.
^^THIS!
In fact, if you let yourself think of other peopleās treatment as a reflection on YOU more than it is on THEM, it can prevent you from getting things done.
Or, in other words,
ok, im rb'ing this again because this actually helped me finally be able to take advantage of cognitive restructuring in a way iāve struggled to do for a long time. Ive been able to get to the my boss was having a bad day part, but iāve always struggled to use that mental change to do something that would improve the situation. but because of this diagram, i THINK ive got it figured out. Hereās a rough explanation of how I interperet this.
Real life example:
Boss yelling: My mom is snapping at me, calling me ādisrespectfulā no matter how I speak to her, and getting mad at me for having missing assignments He was having a bad day: Sheās stressed due to my grandma being in the hospital He shouldnāt take it out on me: just because sheās stressed doesnāt mean she gets to be mean to me. Unionize: I advocate for myself, saying that Iām not being disrespectful and that itās okay to have missing assignments because Iām doing my best Fuck his wife: I am unapologetically proud of myself for what i manage to do in a day, especially if my mom disapproves of it or doesnāt view it as productive, as my own little āfuck youā to her.
End result: no depression.
This actually works and its amazing. Thanks to the meme side of tumblr for accidentally developing a highly effective method for coping with people who treat you like shit
i hope you realise i have immediately added āunionise! fuck his wife! no depression!ā to my mantras for living
the thing i think no one tells these new kids about making their own website is that its 1. fun if youāre a puzzle freak bc its basically making problems for yourself to solve lol 2. mostly just copy and pasting other peopleās CSS or css from w3cschools
so theres no like, innate skill level you need in order to make a website. just the time and desire to keep hitting āpreview pageā and then staring at the page trying to figure out which piece of code broke what
average american zoomer: that does not sound like fun
me: its not. im so angry at my computer now that im shadowboxing it
purgatory's worst nightmare
